Definitions

Writing any kind of definitions list / glossary of terms used for a blog like this is all kinds of difficult. I know what all the words and ancronyms mean so it's weird trying to write an overview of those things for people who don't. So we'll start a list here and link back fairly regularly. We'll update it when we think of a new term that needs to be defined.


For both of us, perhaps the most entertaining and attractive thing about kink is no one is really a universal expert. The nature of fetish and indeed, of the depth of depravity human mind is capable of, is such that no one ever really has a true scope on "all that is kinky". Just when you think you have a handle on things, and know it all, someone will do something that sends your mind into a tailspin and makes you step back from it all for a moment of introspection, often making you re-evaluate you entire ethical code.

Some of the more widely recognized kinks can be divided into a few basic categories to include things like;

Bondage- On one end of the scale, couples that tie each other up with silk scarves. Few people will go through their college years without experimenting a little with things such as this. But bondage can also get more serious, and range from purpose-built and customer made leather cuffs for wrists, ankles, biceps and thighs, through to hog-ties, full body mummification for sensory deprivation purposes, not to mention various Asian decorative rope bondage techniques such as Kinbaku (aka Shibari) and Hojojutsu(A martial art deploying rope bondage requiring no "true" knots) Eventually we'll add some links here. Two Knotty Boys post a bunch of instructional videos online that are fantastic watching if you're interested in the topic.


Role Play Scenarios (Not to be confused with pimple-faced computer geeks in their mom's basement playing Dungeons and Dragons)- From titillating games of schoolteacher/naughty student, sexy maid and stern policeman/woman that are quite commonplace, to animal play like puppies or ponies, age play, Dr/Patient, through to heavier scenes that require pre planning and sometimes multiple people to achieve such as interrogation, kidnapping and rape play scenarios. And this is only touching on some of the more commonplace- role-play is truly limited only by imagination of the participants. One of the best public role play scenes I've ever heard of, was a woman who picked half the stitches out of the seams of a set of clothing - very deliberately picked to look wholesome and girl next doorish, in the fetish club - the guys involved in the scene used the weakened seams to rip the clothes from her and have them disintegrate for a really great faux 'attack' scene that was very sexy.


Sensual/Sensation Play- from feathers and tickling on the lighter end of things to nipple clamps, scratching and biting, ice, suction cupping, sensory deprivation and candle wax- sensation play is play that focuses on how things feel- both good and bad. The idea here is to release the feel-good endorphins without resorting to actual beatings.

Percussion/Impact Play- from spanking on through to the use of tools such as floggers, whips, paddles, crops and canes, percussion play is in it's most basic sense, the act of purely beating someone. Notably separated from martial arts by sexual intent. Although some people’s practice of martial arts probably qualifies.

Power exchange- The act of Dominance and submission- the willing exchange of power, freely given by one partner, who agrees to let the other have control- be that for a single scene with tightly controlled circumstances and limitations, right through to more formalized "contracts" that could extend right through to other aspects of their relationship, for the duration of the relationship.

Electro-play- Electrical toys such as T.E.N.S units, violet wands, shock collars, cattle prods and so forth.


Blood sport- Piercing, cuttings, and so on. Things that are knowingly performed with the intention to draw blood. Some people play with or share the blood, especially vampire fetishists.

Edge play- Riskier activities such as blood sports, asphyxiation, and play with mental triggers and phobias- things that carry a greater risk to the participants. Also sometimes used to discuss forms of blood play performed with edged implements. Blood sports are usually considered edge play by the former definition anyway. We'll expand on this topic as we get some inspiration.

Fluids- Watersports, scat and roman showers, body waste products are considered taboo by most- which makes them more appealing for a select few. Brown and golden showers are kind of self evident as to what they are. A roman shower is vomiting on or being vomited on for sexual gratification. Even we file a lot of these things under 'people are weird'